Sunday, August 24, 2014

Love Letter to My Ex

By Laurie Epps

Breakups are always hard. They’re painful, and this heartache is multiplied if the couple had children together. My ex, I can absolutely say, didn’t know where I was coming from at all. Even though he abandoned me, he seemed to be oblivious to the fact that’s what he’d done.

So as an exercise, I thought I’d purge some of those negative emotions. I’ve lived in constant turmoil too long. Share with me in my journey, and realize that if you were abandoned, and are reading this, that you’re not alone. My life was broadsided, and if nothing else, my spiritual life is growing by leaps and bounds. Recovery is painful, and you don’t have to stop loving your ex to know that they’re no good for you. This is the point that I’ve come to realize.

Here’s my love letter to my ex husband:

Dearest,
            After spending half my life with you, I must tell you that I did this gesture out of love for you. The part that’ll be hardest for you to understand is that I was still in love with you even when I filed for divorce.
            I know that you’re moving on, and that picture doesn’t include me. You’d been distancing yourself from me for years, but I’d refused to accept it. However, by your final act of abandonment I was forced to face it.
            Now, I confess, I miss you. I can remember the good times and not only the break up. Sometimes, I imagine that you still love me, and that things are still good. I’ll wait for you to pounce on the bed on all fours, wagging your tail, and draw out the nickname “honey” with long vowel sounds from your mouth.
            Things weren’t always so bad as they got the last 4-5 years of our marriage. By then, I felt the loneliest when you were around. I knew, it shouldn’t be that way, and that things weren’t right.
            I was resolved to weather anything with you. I could’ve taken on just about any problem except your silence and withdrawal. I’m even still foolish enough to ask myself why you’d leave me, or our girls… They didn’t deserve that, and I can finally say, I didn’t deserve that.
            Oh, I knew I’d cry when I wrote this letter to you. Damn you. But as a writer, I knew that writing this letter was an essential part of my healing process. So today, I release you, and my romantic love for you, so that I can grieve. I loved you with my whole heart, and part of me always will. I know now that you’ll never be able to answer all my questions about why you allowed yourself to abandon our love. It was a beautiful love, and it was worth fighting for.

Affectionately yours,

Me

Laurie Epps is a recent graduate of Anderson University majoring in Creative Writing. Already Laurie is most published as a feature article writer, essayist, and poet.  A seeker of beauty, her is dream is to travel the world one day and tell the many stories of those she meets. Columns include: Monday Morning Book Club, and Thoughtful Thursdays, a column dedicated to the fine art of poetry.

Monday, August 11, 2014

What is Hootsuite?

Barn Owl
By Laurie Epps

What is Hootsuite? In my opinion, it's the most valuable tool in your social media tool box. But, to understand how valuable it can be, you've already established yourself at least on Facebook and Twitter. Hootsuite's a valuable tool that keeps you from making social media a part-time job. Hootsuite can free up your time to do more writing.

To learn the basics, we'll continue to work with my mentor, Edie Melson in her book, Connections: Social Media and Networking Techniques for Writers. We're focusing on pages 119-120. 
Owl taking a look at Hootsuite

Monday, August 4, 2014

What do you do if you've been hacked?

Photo courtesy of Edie Melson
By Laurie Epps

Sorry that my Monday Morning Book Club is coming out this afternoon. We're continuing with our book, Connections: Social Media and Networking Techniques for Writers. We're talking about what to do if you get hacked. It's a risk we'll take every time we get on the Internet.

Many of us become overcome with dread when we realize one of our social media sites have been hacked. The easiest way to be hacked is to click on a bad link that's infected with a virus. But, beware. They bait you. 

Sunday, August 3, 2014

Friendship Day 2014

Friends taking a selfie
By Laurie Epps

Friendship Day was established in the 1940s as a Hallmark kind of holiday. During WWII, the United States refocused on the war and nationalism which placed Friendship Day off the radar for most Americans.

Believe it or not, the character Winnie the Pooh was named ambassador for friendship in the United Nations. With Pooh's popularity, it re-instated the dormant holiday and they recognized July 30th as the International Friendship Day in 2011.

Thursday, July 31, 2014

An Analysis of Ozymandias

By Laurie Epps

Welcome back. Sorry I've been gone so long, but we're going to continue on our with our studies of Romantic Poetry. Today, we'll be talking about Percy Bysshe Shelley.

Percy Bysshe Shelley:

  • Born August 4, 1792 at Field Place near Sussex, England.
  • He was the eldest son to Timothy and Elizabeth Shelley.
  • Therefore, he was due to inherit a large estate. (1 Brother-4 Sisters)
  • Percy attended Eton College for six years beginning in 1804 where he began to write poetry.
  • He transferred to Oxford but was expelled less than a year later for his co-authorship of "The Necessity of Atheism." (Co-authored with Thomas Jefferson Hogg.)
  • That pamplet was so tragic for Shelley because it also estranged him from his father for two years (which left him in dire financial straits).
  • When he came of age at 19, Percy reconciled with his father and wed Harriet Westbrook by elopement in Scotland.
  • In December 1816, Percy's wife Harriet committed suicide.
  • Three weeks later, he married Mary Godwin, most commonly known for her authorship of Frankenstein.
  • Due to his quick re-marriage, it was considered to be free love, Percy lost custody of his two kids that he had with Harriet.
  • Tragically, he died a year later attempting to sail from Leghorn to La Spezia, Italy on his schooner the Don Juan.

Monday, July 28, 2014

Prevent Yourself from Getting Hacked

By Laurie Epps

Welcome back. Today's blog is about preventing yourself from getting hacked. However, be aware that nothing is foolproof. But Edie's straight-forward approach makes it easy for us to follow, but also brings forth things that we might be taking for granted.

We're still working from her book, Connections: Social Media and Networking Techniques for Writers. A lot of this section seems to be common sense, but in the digital age, it's just too easy to click the wrong click.

Sunday, July 27, 2014

Reconnecting With Family

Me and my brother
By Laurie Epps

Sometimes it's good to reconnect with family. I've been away from my office for quite a few weeks, but I'm ready to take on the challenge of going back to my regular schedule. 

I don't get a chance to see my brother very often, but when I heard he'll be in my state, I jumped on the chance for a visit. We caught up on things that have been happening in each other's lives, and all against the beautiful backdrop of Charleston.